Resources for Parents
Having your child begin his or her university career can be a stressful experience for parents, especially if your son or daughter has not lived away from home before. During this important time of transition for the family, many parents put their own feelings and reactions on hold while helping their child prepare for university life.
How is my child doing?
During any particular day or week, your child may seem to be handling everything wonderfully. You may wonder "Why was I so concerned?" Then again, the next time you talk to him or her, they might paint a completely different picture. "I hate it here!" "I don't have what it takes." "I'm not like the other students." These are very common concerns and feelings expressed by students. Just keep in mind that with any change, there is always a period of adjustment. And with adjustment, there may be both excitement and distress. Remind your child that these are common feelings, and share with them how their existing strengths will help them get through this period of adjustment.
How can I tell if my child is in distress?
There is a normal period of adjustment to college that includes both excitement and stress. Sometimes this adjustment can be as long as 6 months to a year. However, if over time you notice that your daughter or son is not coping well (e.g., is not acting like her/his "normal self," grades are declining, withdrawal from family and friends), you may consider suggesting that she/he seek assistance from the Student Counseling Center.
What to do if my child needs help?
The Counseling Center provides consultation to families who have questions or concerns about a student. We will provide as much assistance as possible. Due to confidentiality laws, however, we may not be able to provide information about your student if she or he is utilizing our services.