Having your student home for summer is exciting for the entire family, but it can be a stressful experience for some. Your student is a different version of the person who started classes in the fall, different even from the person you saw over winter break. The changes and development of becoming an adult will continue and growing pains are to be expected with transitions.
Ideas of what the summer will look like to students and families may differ — sleeping until noon and relaxing versus early rising and helping with chores. Keep in mind that students may be tired their first few days home and may not feel up to being social. They have just finished finals and may have kept later hours than usual while studying and completing projects. It might take a few days (and some extra sleep) for them to adjust.
Here are other things to keep in mind for an enjoyable break:
- Your student may be sad about being unable to regularly see college friends, but that doesn’t mean they don’t love you or want to spend time with you.
- Establish plans and be specific. Whatever the rules, make sure to communicate the reasoning behind them. A few questions you may want to discuss:
- Will he or she have a job over the summer?
- What transportation is available to them and what are the rules?
- What chores will they have?
- Is there a curfew? If so, when is it?
- How will you communicate about schedules and activities over the next few months? Some examples include verbal communication, texting, or notes on the refrigerator.
- Will friends visit? If so, for how long and where will they stay?
- Overall, be patient and understanding during this time of change. Growth and awareness happen in both academic and nonacademic ways.
Looking for other helpful hints about reconnecting with your student? Our Student Counseling Center also offers suggestions for families during transitional times.
Return to Comet Families – April 2017